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We hope you’re enjoying Mobadoo Dating – the only Dating Website to let you pay
per contact through your mobile phone with no subscription fees. Each contact is
just £1 so give it a go.
More and more people are using Dating Websites. The service we provide will
hopefully help you find your ideal partner. Mobadoo Dating was specifically designed
to take the stress and cost out of Dating.
In this Section we have some advice for everyone on Mobadoo Dating. We provide
the portal through which you can meet, although the next stage is meeting in person.
We feel that it is our duty to provide you with some advice and tips on dating from
safety to planning a perfect date.
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After meeting someone online, the next stage is meeting them in person. The most
important things to remember when arranging a first meeting are: Safety, Planning,
Following your Instincts and Common Sense. It is advisable to read through the
tips and advice below before you embark on your first date.
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OK… So you’ve decided to meet with him/her. Firstly, remember we don’t want to scare
you into avoiding that first date. Most of the people you meet online are genuine,
but unfortunately, there will always be those who use Internet dating for more sinister
purposes. Please don’t worry – as long as you follow a few simple rules – we can help
you to ensure your personal safety.
Remember, personal safety is of utmost importance. Even if a person seems relatively
trustworthy online you should never take any chances with your personal safety, EVER.
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When you first start talking, try to remain fairly anonymous. Try not to disclose
any personal information. Also do not give out your address or any information about
where you live. If you have children don’t give away information about them such as
their names or school. Be very wary of anyone who tries to get you to divulge this
information before you are ready.
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Before you meet up make sure you find out as much as you can about the other person.
Ask as many questions as possible about general stuff and try asking the same questions
on two separate occasions just to see if you get the same answers. Get the other person
to send you several pictures of themselves. This will help ensure that they haven’t used
someone else’s photo. It is unlikely that they will have a series of pictures if they’ve
been posing as someone else.
Talk on the phone before the date at least twice if possible. Instincts can come into
play when you hear the other person’s voice and most of us can pick up on something
which doesn’t sound quite right. If your instincts tell you something is up, it is
better not to take any risks. Also, talking over the phone is a good way to tell if
you will get on in person and will help break the ice before you meet up.
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Planning is crucial to both your safety and to ensure the date runs smoothly.
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Always meet in a public place. Whether it is a busy railway station or a bar it
is always best to ensure there are plenty of other people around. Never agree to
be picked up from your front door. Firstly, the other person instantly knows where
you live and secondly the instant you leave you will be alone with that person,
and your safety could be compromised.
Plan where you are going beforehand with the other person. Try to ensure it is a
place you both know and if this is not possible then at least be sure that it is
a public place. Do not change these plans unless someone knows exactly where you
are and unless you feel safe to do so. Do not be pressured into changing plans at
the last minute as you could end up somewhere that is unsuitable.
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ALWAYS make sure someone knows where you are going and that you have a mobile phone
on you at all times (make sure the battery is fully charged before you leave the house).
It is also a good idea to call a friend or family member to let them know that you have
met up with the person and that you are safe.
Preferably, you could ask a couple of friends to be nearby when you are initially
meeting, just to ensure you meet up safely with the right person. Sorry boys but
this rule applies much more to girls. If you are male and you have friends with
you it is preferable that they should leave soon after you meet your date, or sit
away from you. It could be rather intimidating and possibly scary for your date
if she thinks you have turned up as a group and she is alone.
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We all have instincts and most of the time you are probably right. If at any point
you start to feel uncomfortable then make your excuses and leave. If at any point
you feel your personal safety is compromised, ring a friend or family member and
get them to meet you and go home together. If your safety is being compromised and
you cannot ring a friend then do not be afraid to ask the staff to help you.
Never take risks, it just isn’t worth it.
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Here are some things to look out for just in case your instincts aren’t too hot that day:
- Is the person consistent? i.e. They are not consistent if they suddenly change details about themselves or information has changed from earlier conversations.
- Is the person very secretive? i.e. Do they not let on about their personal lives, family or friends, have no photos or seem to have no social support. Be wary, they could be hiding something.
- Does the person know more about you than you have told them or that they couldn’t have found out easily? They could be a potential stalker so be very careful.
- Does the person look nothing like their picture? This could mean either the person is not who they say they are or that they have changed since the picture was taken - for example, they could have aged or put on weight. This situation is down to your discretion as to whether the person deliberately misled you or whether they just have insecurities. Unfortunately, this issue can arise and there is no black or white answer. It is down to you and those instincts again.
Just remember, if you see anything unusual or experience anything that you aren’t comfortable with, you have the right to leave at any point.
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All that talk about safety can be scary, but remember most people using Online Dating are
normal people, so as long as you use your common sense and follow our simple tips you
should have a safe first meeting. Of course, we may feel nice and safe online, but just
because we get on well online doesn’t always mean there is chemistry between people,
so don’t get your hopes up too quickly. Mostly we choose people we think we will get
along with. If you don’t fancy each other then maybe you have made a good new friend anyway.
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The first date has to be as fun as you can make it. We’re not suggesting skydiving or
anything crazy, but just being relaxed and entertaining should suffice. First dates
are always a little awkward at first, no matter how confident you think you are.
However, don’t worry because the other person probably feels exactly the same as you.
This feeling should pass once you break the ice and start chatting.
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Make an effort to be well groomed - It is better feel too dressed up than under-dressed.
Make honest compliments; if you think your date looks nice then tell them – they will
probably really appreciate it. Brush up on some old jokes, nothing like a bit of
humour to break the ice.
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Money can be an awkward topic even amongst good friends. That is why drinks are
always a good date as they aren’t too expensive and you can take turns to buy them.
Never turn up on a date expecting the other person to pay, also being tight-fisted
is unlikely to get you a second date. It is a good idea to come to an agreement
beforehand about who will pay. Our advice is to insist on paying for yourself,
then there is no awkwardness.
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Having a couple of drinks to calm the nerves can be a good idea, BUT don’t get drunk.
We all know the dangers of alcohol. Not only do you compromise your personal safety
but you could risk ruining your first date by acting out of character or basically
making an idiot of yourself.
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Just to be on the safe side you should watch your drink being poured and never leave
it out of sight. Even if your date seems very trustworthy you shouldn’t risk leaving
your drink with them. If you start to feel drunk unusually quickly, stop drinking and
call a friend or family member or let the bar staff know. This is extremely rare but
you can never be too careful.
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CLICK HERE for advice on the safest way to use mobadoo dating
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